{"id":8,"date":"2014-09-11T03:07:41","date_gmt":"2014-09-11T03:07:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/williamtlent.com\/?page_id=8"},"modified":"2015-04-20T00:53:59","modified_gmt":"2015-04-20T00:53:59","slug":"grief","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/williamtlent.com\/?page_id=8","title":{"rendered":"Grief"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"panel-grid\" id=\"pg-8-0\" ><div class=\"panel-grid-cell\" id=\"pgc-8-0-0\" ><div class=\"panel widget widget_text panel-first-child panel-last-child\" id=\"panel-8-0-0-0\">\t\t\t<div class=\"textwidget\"><!-- meta slider -->\n<div style=\"max-width: 600px;\" class=\"metaslider metaslider-flex metaslider-289 ml-slider nav-hidden\">\n    \n    <div id=\"metaslider_container_289\">\n        <div id=\"metaslider_289\">\n            <ul class=\"slides\">\n                <li style=\"display: block; width: 100%;\"><img src=\"https:\/\/williamtlent.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/g1.jpg\" height=\"400\" width=\"600\" alt=\"\" class=\"slider-289 slide-338\" \/><\/li>\n                <li style=\"display: none; width: 100%;\"><img src=\"https:\/\/williamtlent.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/g2.jpg\" height=\"400\" width=\"600\" alt=\"\" class=\"slider-289 slide-339\" \/><\/li>\n            <\/ul>\n        <\/div>\n        \n    <\/div>\n    <script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n        var metaslider_289 = function($) {\n            $('#metaslider_289').addClass('flexslider'); \/\/ theme\/plugin conflict avoidance\n            $('#metaslider_289').flexslider({ \n                slideshowSpeed:7000,\n                animation:\"fade\",\n                controlNav:false,\n                directionNav:true,\n                pauseOnHover:true,\n                direction:\"horizontal\",\n                reverse:false,\n                animationSpeed:600,\n                prevText:\"&lt;\",\n                nextText:\"&gt;\",\n                slideshow:true\n            });\n        };\n        var timer_metaslider_289 = function() {\n            var slider = !window.jQuery ? window.setTimeout(timer_metaslider_289, 100) : !jQuery.isReady ? window.setTimeout(timer_metaslider_289, 1) : metaslider_289(window.jQuery);\n        };\n        timer_metaslider_289();\n    <\/script>\n<\/div>\n<!--\/\/ meta slider--><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><div class=\"panel-grid-cell\" id=\"pgc-8-0-1\" ><div class=\"panel widget widget_text panel-first-child panel-last-child\" id=\"panel-8-0-1-0\">\t\t\t<div class=\"textwidget\"><p><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">It\u2019s possible I am pushing through solid rock<br \/>\nin flintlike layers, as the ore lies, alone;<br \/>\nI am such a long way in I see no way through,<br \/>\nand no space: everything is close to my face,<br \/>\nand everything close to my face is stone.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">I don\u2019t have much knowledge yet in grief<br \/>\nso this massive darkness makes me small.<br \/>\nYou be the master: make yourself fierce, break in:<br \/>\nthen your great transforming will happen to me,<br \/>\nand my great grief cry will happen to you.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">(Rilke, translated by Robert Bly)<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"panel-grid\" id=\"pg-8-1\" ><div class=\"panel-grid-cell\" id=\"pgc-8-1-0\" ><div class=\"panel widget widget_text panel-first-child panel-last-child\" id=\"panel-8-1-0-0\">\t\t\t<div class=\"textwidget\"><p>Grief is the emotional and physiological state that issues from profound loss. Grief is multifaceted, staggering, disorienting, and destabilizing. <strong>Grief, however, is not a problem to be solved. Grief is an experience to be lived.<\/strong> The problems come from not allowing ourselves to grieve and grieve fully.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>There is no getting over grief. There is only facing grief, and allowing the self to experience grief.<\/strong> OR there is resisting grief, ignoring grief, denying grief, and trying to keep grief at bay. The latter results in our becoming ill, shutting down in depression, or acting out in some way. \u00a0The former results in us feeling deeply, connecting with our true selves, and being passionately alive.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Because we are human beings, we are communal beings. We need others. We go through our lives with others. One day, one of those about whom we care deeply, dies. We are bereft. We are \u201cat a loss.\u201d \u00a0And we go down. It is right and proper that we do so. We stay down for awhile, sometimes for a long while. And we can cry out with the pain of that. That is the most natural thing in the world. But we have been taught from very early on to be \u201csilent and stolid\u201d with our pain. (Cf. \u201cCry Out in Your Weakness,\u201d The Essential Rumi, translated by Coleman Barks). To not cry out. To not lament. \u00a0To not make others feel uncomfortable. To not be a \u201cburden\u201d to others.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/strong>To cry out -- that which at birth was organic and fluid, now feels uncomfortable, difficult and even wrong. We have all received messages in our culture that suggest that it is problematic to grieve, or to feel anything for that matter, too loudly or too long. We need others to help us to be able to feel, to grieve. We need help. We need support.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/strong>We can work together to help remove the blocks which prevent you from crying out. \u00a0I help people to tap into and give expression to the feelings within. <strong>I want you to feel safe and supported as you access, explore and express your grief in healthy ways.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/strong>Of course, grief is experienced not only in reaction to the death of a familial loved one, but in relation to all kinds of losses including the loss of:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>physical health,<\/li>\n<li>a relationship through break-up or divorce,<\/li>\n<li>a pet,<\/li>\n<li>faith,<\/li>\n<li>income,<\/li>\n<li>status,<\/li>\n<li>a sense of purpose,<\/li>\n<li>sobriety,<\/li>\n<li>an illusion or delusion about ourselves or others.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>The goal<\/strong> is not to help you get over your loss, but <strong>to be with, and move through<\/strong> and with whatever you are experiencing with regard to that loss.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/strong>\u201cThe only people who think there\u2019s a time limit for grief, have never lost a piece of their heart. Take all the time you need.\u201d Unknown.<\/p>\n<p><a title=\"Contact Bill Lent\" href=\"https:\/\/williamtlent.com\/?page_id=28\">Contact Bill\u00a0Lent<\/a><\/p>\n<p>(646) 322-1582<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s possible I am pushing through solid rock in flintlike layers, as the ore lies, alone; I am such a long way in I see no way through, and no space: everything is close to my face, and everything close to my face is stone. 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